Settling in...

I need to do some housecleaning in regards to LJ user tags, but my LiveJournal posts are all moved over here.I read through all my old posts today. It was a very slow day at work, so I used the time productively.There's a lot I need to learn still and it's amazing how after 10 years (I started blogging in 2001) I've still got a lot of the same lessons on my plate.It was oddly cathartic reading all my old posts and also somewhat depressing as I miss chatting with many of the people who used to read my LiveJournal regularly.

My tweets

• Tue, 16:26: OMG! I have my own cube at work. I can *gasp* decorate and make it my own! I feel special.
• Tue, 18:04: *sigh* I just realized I forgot my lunch at home. Oh well, I need to lose some weight anyway.

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• Fri, 11:50: @brojoghost So am I. Where are we going to dinner?

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• Thu, 11:08: I'm starting to think we need to have a "Playbill" published for my workplace, the high tension drama here is ready for Broadway!

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• Tue, 08:06: In about 15 minutes, gotta gey gas and I will be on my way

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• Сб, 09:51: Howdy from Cape Girardeau.
• Сб, 14:17: Hi from Palmyra, MO!
• Сб, 15:04: Hello Iowa!
• Сб, 16:19: Iowa City flyby
• Сб, 17:29: I am about to meet my Waterloo (Iowa)

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• Fri, 07:41: I could be in MN this morning. 35 and steady wind at 15 gusting to 25. A far cry from the sunny 58 yesterday. http://t.co/1Nrqo0q5

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• Sat, 18:01: @gtbradlee Up here in MN, many call them the Minnesota Mild. GO BLUES!

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• Вс, 23:15: Why is it the closer I get to having my novel finished, the harder it is to write? It's like everything has gone dry but it's not done yet!

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• Вт, 03:56: @gurumn I know you aren't complaining.
• Вт, 16:16: Going to head back to bed and hope I can get a few hours of sleep before work tonight. I'm not amused with work today.

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• Вс, 17:57: @brojoghost I could help but it's going to depend on how I feel.
• Вс, 18:09: @kokohawk I'm almost always had that happen with @TMobile. Even the "foreign"/"offshore" reps have been clear and concise. It's enjoyable.
• Вс, 18:19: @kokohawk is it legal to marry one's own ego in Minnesota?

As a follow up to my previous post:

Why does it matter to you (the general you) whom I am attracted to and whom I am engaged in sexual relations with?

Unless I am asking you out or hitting on you and you aren't interested for what ever reason, then it doesn't matter. If I am asking you out or hitting on you and you aren't interested, a simple "Sorry man, not my thing" is sufficient.

Warning: Self-disclosure and ranting!

There is an (in)famous bear website with numbers in it's name this is known for it's size and hirsuiteness discrimination.  My partner was silently rejected for membership.  Why?  He doesn't know.  He was just rejected.

I joined an alternative site that was founded to get away from the capricious behavior of the owner of the previously mentioned site.

Tonight, one of the members of the site I'm on (the alterantive site) posted that he had engaged in his first heterosexual experience the night before and and enjoyed it.

The comments that followed were what I should have expected but to have others tell me that it is "to be expected" really set me off.

So, you're on a site that was founded to get away from the behavior of a site owner who engaged in random member rejection based on unknown standards, who filters out content in site IMs, and yet I (and other bisexuals) should *expect* to be harrassed and discriminated against?!

From time to time, I think that the gay 'community' (there's a misnomer) has come so far and it has.  Just don't look under the hood or you will find the duct table and chicken wire that holds it together.

Sadly, I'm starting to believe that the only reason that the GLBT community has gotten as far as it has is because of the HIV/AIDS crisis.

If we had not had that horrible destruction of so many people and lives in the 80s and continuing on through the present, I don't think that the "community" would have any unity at all.

I am rarely fully open about my bisexuality.  I have not had sex with a woman since 1995.  I did enjoy it, I do occasionally miss it, but it's not what I want in the big picture.  I don't get that bonding experience with women like I do with men. 

Many of the straight people who I have met (not friends, but acquaintances) and who have found out that I am bisexual generally start in on the "Oh see, you just need to get back into woman and you'll be married in no time"

Gay men are all about the 'OMG!  You put your junk where?' and how could you do that..and then a pouring out of all the stereotypes about women (holy misogyny!).

It's just easier to lie and say I'm gay.  I don't need a lecture about how I need to find the right woman or how I must have been drunk or worse to have had sex with a "fish".

For the love of all that is right, we've battled HIV/AIDS with the lesbians who helped run the organizations that saved many gay men going unsung.  We've battled to become publicly accepted and not be based, discriminated against, or looked down on...

But yet, in our own community, bisexuals are the ones on the "wrong side" of the tracks.  There's still open disdain for the bisexuals.

I won't even go into the twinks vs bears vs ... yeah.  *sigh*  We have made much public progress but in private (our own spaces and communities) we have much to do.

I know that most people who read my blog do not know that I am bisexual.  If this changes your opinion of me, well, I'm sorry.  I can't deal with this constant putting down of the bisexuals from both sides.

Мои твиты

• Чт, 23:18: @tmobile duh @twitter #gdgtsf

My tweets

• Thu, 23:26: I'm so glad I'm not doing ANYTHING regarding #BlackFriday except avoiding it. I have a handful of presents to get this year and it'll wait.

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• Wed, 23:45: It's been a heckuva slow day. I'm catching up on the @smshow that I've missed the last few days. Thank $Diety for the StephCast at $7.99/mo.
• Thu, 00:36: Testing the Qwit twitter client...
• Thu, 00:43: Well, Qwit managed to authorize itself (sorta) and it syncs my home and @ timelines but not the Inbox and Outbox. I'll may futz with it.

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• Tue, 23:35: Morning everyone. Been a busy start to the day here at work..but it's finally calmed down. Hopefully it'll be smooth sailing til 0730.
• Wed, 04:37: State Rep. Wants Cook County to be Its Own State - http://t.co/GhOAXcss http://t.co/ZWdVVBLh
• Wed, 04:47: Check out http://t.co/Pj518T8Q -- The Lorado Taft Museum in Elmwood, IL (my hometown!)
• Wed, 05:05: Check out http://t.co/jpOCfZq2 - Jubilee College SP near Brimfield, IL (I grew up about 15 miles away) and I didn't know the history of it.
• Wed, 05:20: @brojoghost Check out http://t.co/z2jM9BGd - Watch this when you can. Swedes emigrating to IL to escape church oppression. We will visit.
• Wed, 07:09: @brojoghost Happy Birthday!
• Wed, 11:31: It's late but I am finally off to sleep.

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• Пн, 21:27: Where the ...? Why the ...?

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• Вс, 05:06: Good morning twitterdom!

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• Пт, 20:13: Back to work... http://t.co/o2C0We1D
• Пт, 20:23: Oh Gods...
• Пт, 20:23: err Oh Gods... "Honey" by Bobby Goldsboro on the radio. What's next? "Tell Laura I Love Her"
• Пт, 21:09: @gurumn *pshaw* <2" of snow is not the time to bury your head in the sand. This is MN and we can handle far worse.
• Пт, 21:17: @gurumn The forecast for Turkey Day is for mid 40s and Black Friday looks to be rainy and mid-upper 40s. This is not MN weather.
• Сб, 00:55: @hototapp is available as a SUSE repo, but it's at 0.9.7. Time to get the source and rebuild it myself.
• Сб, 01:00: @hotot in the SUSE 12.1 repo is the 0.9.9 version but the app itself reports it is 0.9.7. All I know is that it works and I am happy.
• Сб, 03:48: Well, finally. I've made progress on the Twin Cities Weather Now site. I've got a lot of integration work to do, but so far, so good.

Back to work...

Today is my first day back to work since I broke to my tailbone last Sunday morning.

I was doing fine but here at work I really can't get up and walk around as much as I need.  I'm glad that I brought my vicodin.

It's going to be a long overnight shift.

Мои твиты

• Чт, 21:38: @brojoghost planning on making a handbound copy of my novel? ;)
• Пт, 04:45: Mornin Twitter. I have to readjust my schedule again. I'm back to being up during the day...

My tweets

• Wed, 21:45: Having fun at the Linden Hills Chatterbox with @gurumn @kokohawk @brojoghost and three others...can't remember handles. http://t.co/Xp7gc4Bj
• Thu, 03:34: Morning! It's been a while but real life has interrupted the writing for a while. I didn't get the promotion and I broke my tailbone.
• Thu, 04:49: *sigh* thanks ATI for releasing the 11.11 Linux drivers (fixing Fedora 16) just three days after I installed OpenSUSE (which is far better)

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• Вт, 15:21: To steal a lyric "It wasn't me."

My tweets

• Sun, 20:02: Hallo world. *yawn* I worked yesterday (normally a day off) so I've been thinking today is Monday all day. No, it's Sunday.
• Mon, 09:17: Good night everyone!