I was talking to a friend of mine tonight.
I spent about two hours listening to him describe how others see him, how others do this and others do that...
And yet, when I'd ask him about how he viewed something, he had no idea.
It was like he'd totally detached from his own life.
It's painful for me to wrap my head around it. I can't imagine living my life totally based on what others think of me and trying to constantly mold my own life to fit others expectations...
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Well unfortunatly people to one degree or another live thier lives on the expectations of others. Though it is scary to think of someone who has no true self identity other that what others tell him he is.
I've been through those phases of "but what will people think/do/say"
It's the total lack of self-identity that scares me. It's as if he's just a shell. He's convinced that I'm this big hunky mature intelligent guy who has all the answers. It's like he thinks that if he were to date me that I'd just be this big bastion of strength and happiness. I'd be the combination of father, big brother, and lover.
He's a really nice guy but he's starting to scare me...
Yeah I know what you mean. He is the ultimate guy who is out to please and be whatever the other guy wants. I would also be scared of that lack of identity. I like knowing the other person and what they are and what they stand for no matter if it conflicts with me. The other scary part is that people like that will be very clingly cause they like the defenition the other person gives them.
They are clingy yes, but at the same time, there is nothing to them at all. You unintentionally mold a piece here and there, but the rest is just an amorphous mass.
If I wanted something that I could make into whatever I wanted it to be, I'd get some Play-doh and Lego.
Well nothing you can do to change him that will not be superficial at best. So yeah play-doe will be a better bet to mold
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